Lust is a powerful enemy of men all over the world. (Yes, it affects women as well, but I am primarily speaking to men in this article.) Although collectively as Christians we know lust is wrong, the immorality of lust is still prevalent throughout the church. In over 30 years of counseling sex addicts and …
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The enemy will utilize any weapon afforded him to keep an addict trapped in his addiction. One of his most powerful weapons against us is deprivation. Deprivation is a state that an addict keeps himself in which deprives him from having legitimate needs met. An addict will often have several areas of deprivation in his …
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When I was young and color television first came out, there was a show I really liked called Batman. I can still hear the theme song in my head today. Honestly, I bought my son some of these shows on DVD, and even years later, I still liked those old Batman shows. Batman always had …
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Years ago, I sought a term to define a phenomenon that I was seeing over and over again in my office. Because I could not find one, I coined the term Intimacy Anorexia®. Intimacy Anorexia® is the active withholding of emotional, spiritual and/or sexual intimacy from a spouse or significant other. If you are the …
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In over 30 years of counseling, I have developed and used some tools in my practice to help my clients find healing in relationships and past hurts. In this article, I want to tell you about the exercise I like to call “Cleansing the temple.” This exercise can remove a lot of the pain that …
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On the night of Jesus’ betrayal, Jesus took a towel and a basin of water and washed the feet of His disciples. (See John 13:1-17). In Jesus’ day, foot washing was a daily occurrence. However, it was the custom to have a household slave wash the feet of the guests. When Jesus and His disciples …
Whether you are close to your earthly in-laws or separated by distance or discord, you have a heavenly father-in-law who will never leave you. If you are a married Christian, you married God’s son or daughter. That makes Him your father-in-law. Unlike our earthly in-laws, our father-in-law God has unlimited resources for us to carry …
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Men and women have been medicating their pain and bad choices throughout time. God always desires for us to leave our addictions to follow Him into spiritual adulthood. He is always willing to empower and enable us to do so when we are teachable. I want to walk you through a well-known Bible story that …
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In a book I wrote several years ago called 101 Freedom Exercises: A Christian Guide for Sexual Addiction Recovery, I outline several exercises to help men get and stay free from lust. The following is a summation of some of these exercises, as well as a few more I have learned along the way. Pray …
When you hear the words “Well done,” what is the first thing that pops into your head? This likely reminds you of the well-known Christian phrase, “Well done, good and faithful servant” every believer wants to hear at the end of his or her life. Well, did you know the enemy of your soul also …
In this article, I want to take you down memory lane to when you were first courting your spouse. Do you remember how you could intentionally set it up to see your love at work, a certain place or a campus? Do you remember how you familiarized yourself with their schedule so you could optimize …
Every once in a while, a corporation gets a tag line to promote their business that becomes part of American culture. I think of Nike’s “Just Do It” and Chick-fil-A’s “Eat Mor Chikin,” a sign held up by a couple of cows. Recently I was in a sporting goods store and I saw the tag …
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As Christians, we talk a lot about humility and yet know little about it. Like every other human being, I don’t like the characteristics of humility. It is often painful. I have learned that basically there are two paths to humility. The first path is clear. We can humble ourselves. Humbling ourselves in sexual addiction …
Martin Luther is believed to have said that there are three conversions of a man: his heart, his mind and his purse. I think he had a good understanding of the complexity the role money plays in a person’s life. Money is a very personal issue. Most of us are very independent in our thinking …
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Acceptance and learning are keys to a happy marriage. When Jesus washed His disciples’ feet, could you imagine Him saying: “Boys, line up! I have to splash water on your disgusting feet to make a point. I am doing this only because my Father wants me to do it. Hurry! Let’s get this done.” In …
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