For years, Kenny Luck has witnessed Men’s Ministry in local churches leaving men unengaged and unfulfilled. The best-selling author’s heart is to see that trend cease. Luck, an ECPA platinum award-winning author of the God’s Man and Every Man Series and pastor of Men at Rick Warren’s Saddleback Church, has launched the definitive website for …
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The 2013 Wildfire “Men’s Impact Weekend” Conference is set to pack out the Liberty University Vines Center with 10,000 guys in just a few short months. National Football League icon Tim Tebow of the New York Jets has just been confirmed as the headliner for the March 8-9, 2013 event. Tebow will be sharing his …
“I just don’t understand! My sweet son is so temperamental lately.” “It’s like he’s a different kid.” “I don’t understand the anger. What’s that about?” “School used to be fun, but now it takes forever.” “He acts so addled. Can’t remember what I tell him for one minute.” We hear it all the time. We’ve said it ourselves. We …
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Physically, Tom Sullivan has been blind since berth. Throughout his life, however, the well-known 65-year-old author/entertainer has witnessed God’s grace and mercy to its fullest extent. In his latest book As I See It, Sullivan explains how God helped him to see things from the inside out instead of the outside in. It has allowed …
Do you ever wonder if you are a Christian? Many people have asked that question. There are some pat answers such as “pray the sinner’s prayer” or “accept Jesus into your heart” or “believe and be saved.” If you believe you have done these things, and yet are deeply troubled over the assurance of your …
“Do not put your trust in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save. When their spirit departs, they return to the ground; on that very day their plans come to nothing. Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God” (Ps. 146:3-5, NIV). Gulp! This is strong …
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Live in a sex-charged culture, without getting zapped!
Jim is in my office one Saturday morning crying over the lust, guilt and terrible sexual choices that are destroying his life. I don’t know whether to empathize with his pain or kick his butt for going to sleep on his watch!
I remind him that the battle for sexual integrity demands constant vigilance. It’s a wrestling match with Satan, and any time you let your guard down, you get body-slammed.
I believe that God wants every Christian man to be sexually successful. He desires all of us to enter into the holy of holies where spirit, soul and body intimacy occurs with your wife on a regular basis. His desire is to equip each one of us with the skills to be spiritually and emotionally intimate outside of the bedroom so that we can be sexually successful inside of the bedroom.
Are you wondering what a sexually successful man is and how you can become one? Let me be perfectly clear. Sex is by far one of God’s best ideas! Don’t you agree? I imagine the Creator could have made procreation a behavior that brought little pleasure and only engaged our bodies, completely detached from the wealth of a soul and spirit experience. What a bummer sex would have been if that were the case.
Thankfully our Maker decided to be very creative concerning our sexuality. Not only does your body go through the greatest physiological changes, but when engaging successfully in sex you also experience the highest chemical reward possible for your body.
As a therapist, I have counseled with thousands of men regarding sexuality issues. During this time, I have learned that many men are not sexually successful. I have “clocked in” years of my life listening to men as they share varied stories of their lack of sexual success. These men and their wives want to be sexually successful, but even after several decades of marriage, they have not achieved sexual success.
The director of ministry at Every Man Ministries is Danny Wallen. Around here we call him “Yoda” because every time he opens his mouth, you feel stupid. I usually have a pencil and pad handy when he goes off in a stream-of-consciousness discourse because the dude knows how to raise up and train men. Standing …
If you give yourself permission to look, lust or fantasize outside the bedroom, it can make life more difficult inside the bedroom. You may have experienced this during sex with your wife when suddenly you’re hit with an extramarital thought, picture or fantasy. What many men don’t know is that during a sexual release the …
“Integrity”
is a word that is widely used—and widely misunderstood. If you were to
ask the average person for a definition of integrity you’d probably
hear a lot of hemming and hawing. The origin of the word makes its
meaning very clear. “Integrity” comes from the Latin adjective integer,
which means “whole” or “complete.” In mathematics, an integer is a
positive or negative whole number or zero—a number without any
fractional part.
A person of integrity is honest and upright. His soul is not divided or compartmentalized.
In honor of Thanksgiving, I’m happy to announce the top 10 things
Christian guys can be thankful for in 2009. This list is in no
particular order and will alternate between meaningful, truly important
things and completely superficial fun stuff.
10. Cheap HDTVs
A combination of better technology and a crummy economy has now allowed
men to view the world as it was meant to be viewed: on a couch in
glorious high definition. So whether you’re watching the good
(football), the bad (chick flicks) or the ugly (Gregg Popovich), you
get to see every nook and cranny.
Question: Doug, I’m married
and know that 1 Timothy 5:1-2 says, “Treat … older women as mothers,
and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (NIV). But I
struggle with impure thoughts when I’m around women. What is the best
way to keep my mind sexually pure?
Answer:
I recommend a few strategies. One, wear a rubber band on your wrist and
every time you lust at a woman, snap it. This will stop reinforcing
this behavior. Two, memorize some Scriptures on purity so you can
access them when in need. Three, do what 1 Timothy 5:1-2 suggests—view
all women in the context of a relationship.
My book agent is an unusual combination of business partner, coach and mother. Even though my agent is a guy, he is still like Mom because he frets about my future and hopes he can be proud of me someday if I grow up to be a successful and mature writer before he throttles me for misbehaving. I recently told my agent that I wanted to write a book titled Finding God in Bed. He replied, “Well, that would certainly be provocative,” which is agent/mother-speak for, “You have lost your ever-loving mind, and no Christian bookstore would ever carry a book like that, and you are going to be the death of me yet, and wouldn’t you feel better after a nice nap?”
Question: Doug, what should I look for when choosing an accountability partner? Answer: The first thing to look for in a good accountability partner is someone who is regularly available for you. No matter how great someone is, if he can’t get together or return phone calls, then he is going to be of little …
